Five Things Not to Do During Sex

• Don't write off foreplay, even if you're the connoisseur of quickies. Whether it's a casual hookup or a long-term relationship, spending time teasing, lavishing, and seducing your partner gives them particular attention that will get them much more revved up than they would be sans-foreplay. Foreplay can also make the sex more gratifying because of the increase of lubrication in women, plus there's a good chance that you'll want to be all over each other anyway, after at least ten minutes of holding out.

• Oral sex can run the gamut between never wrong and disastrous, depending on a number of factors such as the comfort level of the partners, communication, sobriety, and even the giver's familiarity with the genitals they're working with. Whatever the situation, be sure not to rush things, and don't be afraid to ask if you're not sure what your partner wants or likes. Pointers aren't just for virgins–good communication throughout your sex career leads to long-term good sex.

• Don't fake an orgasm. If you fake it once–particularly if you're not the greatest actor and get a bit overzealous–your partner might think that what they were doing worked well for you and that they should try it again, when in fact your faking it could explicitly mean otherwise. Even if your inability to come isn't a matter of technique (maybe your head just isn't in the game, or you're too drunk), it's still best to be honest and gently verbalize or not to make a big deal out of it then and talk about it when it's a good time or should your partner inquire. And, perhaps most concerning of all, it's a lie and can lead to other communication issues, in sex and in relationships.

• When it comes to anal sex, don't go from the ass to the mouth or vagina without changing condoms, washing hands, switching toys, et cetera. It's no secret that bacteria dwell in that general vicinity, and it's wise to try to protect each other as much as possible, even if it's a matter of latex gloves on the hands, a condom around fingers, or Saran Wrap between the mouth and the asshole. Gloves and condoms can also help prevent tissue from tearing by facilitating a smoother entry, and tearing can increase the likelihood of STD transmission.

• It's the cardinal rule, but still needs to be noted: do not allow yourself to do something you're uncomfortable with, or feel pressured to do. Being "caught up in the moment" is not an excuse to disregard condoms, having sex with someone you don't want to, or anything that could endanger your health, emotions, or sensibilities in any way. One act of unprotected sex can affect your health forever, and pregnancy can affect you for a lifetime, depending on how you or you and your partner decide to handle the situation. Be honest with yourself and clear about what your limits are.